Actually Stick With That New Good Habit

A habit can be described as being triggered to act in a particular way because of a particular situation, says Gardner. The action is called a behaviour; as mentioned, it results in some kind of reward. The reward reinforces the association between trigger and behaviour, forming a relationship known as a habit loop. So every time you get out of bed (the trigger), do a quick foam-rolling session (the behaviour) and feel looser afterwards (the reward)—your habit of rolling out when you wake up becomes stronger. Eventually, you'll probably find yourself grabbing your roller without even thinking about it. That in itself is progress—and the more healthy habits you stack up, the more progress you'll make.

(FYI, experts can't say exactly how long it takes for habits to fully form. The 21-day guideline most people have heard is a myth; some habits take longer, and some can form much sooner than that, according to Gardner and other behaviour-change experts. So don't get too caught up in counting the days.)

We've all thought, "I'll start tomorrow". But being consistent is hard. The reason? Change takes motivation and self-control, and those aren't always easy to tap into, even when your mind is set on gaining ground.

We also tend to be overly ambitious, which can set us up to fail, notes Lee. Part of that comes down to confusing the two different types of habitual behaviour, "deciding" and "doing", says Gardner.

Let's say you want to journal for 15 minutes each morning. You must make habits of deciding to do the journalling and of actually doing the journalling. Even if you nail the former, you still need to put in the effort to do the second part, says Gardner. And if the doing requires more effort than you can motivate yourself to put in, you won't follow through. (RIP, every resolution we've abandoned by mid-January.) To create habits with confidence, you want to make the deciding bit automatic and the doing piece realistic.

What it is: Attaching a new behaviour to an existing behaviour you already do regularly (an anchor).

Why it works: By anchoring something that's a goal (for example, flossing) to something you already do consistently (like brushing your teeth)—you use an existing trigger, which makes it easier to smoothly pull the new behaviour into your routine, says Lee. It works a lot better than just trying to do that behaviour whenever you think of it (pretty sure flossing rarely crosses your mind).

How to do it: "Sit for 20 minutes and write down the things you do every single day without fail. It's almost everything", explains Lee. This exercise should prove that you have no shortage of anchor habits to work with.

Then, choose an anchor that's related to the new behaviour you have in mind, says Gardner. If your goal is to hydrate more, you could insert drinking a glass of water into your cleaning-the-kitchen routine, which works because the sink or fridge is right in front of you.

Note: It's important to be über specific about where you're going to insert your habit-in-the-making. Saying you'll drink after "wiping down the table" or "putting the last dish in the dishwasher" is far more helpful than attaching it to "cleaning the kitchen". If you think you'll forget, simply write down your intention ("clean counter = H20") on a sticky note and put it wherever you do your anchor activity, says Gardner.

What it is: Starting with a super-small version of a new behaviour, and gradually building up to something bigger.

Why it works: Kicking things off with the smallest possible iteration of your habit-to-be and gradually working your way up to your big-picture goal helps you build confidence and competence, says Gardner. In the process, you accrue excitement and momentum, so your desire to build on your habit grows.

How to do it: "Make your behaviour so small, so easy, that even on your worst days, you're still able to do it", suggests Lee. (If you've heard of famous behaviour expert BJ Fogg, you're probably familiar with the concept of tiny habits and big changes.)

Take the example of 15 minutes of morning journalling. You'd start by opening your journal after you pour your coffee. With some repetition, simply opening your journal should start to feel second nature. And it should build that excitement and momentum, says Lee.

Once you've done that successfully for a while, open your journal and pick up your pen. Progress to opening your journal, picking up your pen and writing for one minute—and gradually increase from there. But do only as much as you can consistently execute, advises Lee. On an off day, you can drop back to your journal-opening bare minimum to keep your habit of deciding to journal going strong.

Similarly, if you're trying to get yourself moving every day, start with just a few minutes of stretches or activation drills, on your own or following a programme like the Daily Move Challenge in the Nike Training Club App. Once that feels like a normal and necessary part of your day, add to it bit by bit.

Know that missing one day (or, heck, three) of your habit is not a deal-breaker. In research, chances to do your habit are called opportunities. "We know that you can form a habit despite missing a few opportunities", says Gardner. Trusting that a miss here or there isn't a reason to abandon ship can be enough to keep you coming back—forming that good habit for good.